What is happiness?
Happiness may mean something different to each person, however, if we can assume that everyone strives for their idea of happiness — however it looks, feels, smells — then there must be universal principles that allow us to better understand it.
Better understanding happiness gets you closer to what you want. It may help you clear whatever blocks are in the way of your version of happiness.
Lately this theme of happiness has really stood out in my newsfeed, inbox, and on social media. It must have something to do with all the new year themed content.
So here’s what I’ve gathered from a little bit of reading and reflection on, what is happiness?
Happiness is not allowing external circumstances to dictate your mood
I can finally explain well why I don’t tend to get particularly excited or disappointed about any one thing. People have misunderstood me as being unemotional. It’s actually the complete opposite.
Because I feel joy and contentment from within, I don’t give away my power to circumstances external to me — positive or negative — to determine my mood and happiness. I guess this is what that cliché phrase “happiness is an inside job” means. There’s absolute wisdom in that.
Happiness is not a goal or a new year’s resolution
I don’t believe in new year’s resolutions. Part of the reason why is because I believe that personal development and personal growth are daily work.
If you really wanted to lose weight, or if you were really ready to commit to taking better care of yourself, you would have started working on it yesterday. You don’t need to wait for January 1st to do so.
In line with this logic, happiness is not a goal that you can set and achieve. It’s not like a weight loss goal where you get to step on a scale and say, “Great, I’m there. I’ve achieved happiness.”
Happiness is a constant, a choice, and something you prioritize including in your life.
Your happiness is your own
This final point is two-fold: your happiness is yours to own and belongs to no one else but you. Your happiness cannot be given away, and no one else can own your happiness.
Secondly, happiness is defined by you and only you. No one can tell you what your version of happiness is. And your idea of happiness may change and evolve with you, which is beautiful and aweseome.
It’s hard to make tangible and put into words, but you know happiness when you feel it. It’s a knowing and a feeling. You have to find yours.
Happy new year,