In the spirit of the new year, I’m sharing with you my reflections on something a little more personal.
First things first: 2017 completely kicked me in the ass. I’ve heard many people say the same about their experience. And like many of you, my perspective is that it only made me stronger, and for that, I’m grateful.
Here are the 3 life-changing lessons I learned in 2017:
1. Be present.
When I became aware of how future- and past-oriented my mind is wired, I realized how much I was robbing myself of the present. Worrying about what cannot be changed (the past) or being concerned about what would happen next (the future), feels unproductive and anxiety-provoking.
What first triggered this awareness in me was when I hit a point in 2017 where I felt lost and ungrounded. I felt bogged down by things from my past that I was allowing to affect my present experience. I asked myself and the universe how I could break free from this state. I found the answer in letting go, and the key to letting go, in being present.
I’ve slowly learned ways to become more present, and to really rewire the way I think. Whether I’m doing work (i.e. writing this blog post), catching up with an old friend, or spending quality time with family, I’ve learned to set aside all distractions in order to focus my energy on being in the moment.
This work on myself has really freed me from concern and allowed me to be channel my energy to where it belongs.
2. Let go of ‘time’. Time is a social construct.
It always gives me great perspective when I’m struggling with a difficult situation, to imagine for a moment as if time did not exist.
Let’s say something in your life is giving you stress or anxiety. If you could factor out time, would you still see the situation the same way?
The idea of time is made up by society and has different interpretations in different cultures. Time is a social construct.
Having an unhealthy attachment to time can put unnecessary pressure on you.
This year, I learned to detach to time as a social construct. I stopped subscribing to what my society happens to prescribe on things like age.
It’s allowed me to become a more patient person — to myself and to others.
I’ve stopped worrying about my age relative to what I “should” or “should not” have done by now. I’ve stopped letting others’ insecurities regarding time and age to affect my experience. I’ve stopped defending or apologizing for my age.
Detaching from time has freed me, improved my relationship with time, and its actually made me a more productive person.
3. Always allow yourself to create.
Every person on this planet is a creator capable of creating. I hold this belief as being grounded in the laws of the universe that states that everything is energy.
When you create, you are allowing your creative energies to flow.
When you are allowing creativity, you become a creative problem solver, worker, family member, friend. And this creativity transcends all areas of your life: finance, health, relationships, love, and career.
I think this is what people really mean when they talk about going with the flow. Creating allows the flow.
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Best wishes to you in the new year,